While surrogacy has become more popular in recent years as more and more celebrities are using surrogacy to grow their families, there is still a lot of information available that people don’t know. There are many resources, including surrogacy books available to help prepare intended parents and surrogates for their journeys. Because surrogacy is such a unique experience, many people have chosen to write about their experience during and after their surrogacy journey. This has allowed them to share their story while also helping other intended parents and surrogates prepare for their own journeys. Each of these surrogacy books are unique and will resonate with different audiences.
If you are looking to grow your family through surrogacy or have already begun your journey, there are many different books that can help with the process. There are resources available that provide insight into the financial commitment, nurturing the relationship with your surrogate, the legal process, and more.
There are also many resources available for surrogates to help them prepare for matching, screening, pregnancy, and a surrogate birth. Many of these books are written by previous or current surrogates that have first hand experience with the process.
While we’re only highlighting books in this blog post, there are also many websites and blogs written entirely by parents and surrogates who have been through the process. These resources can be found across the internet and many can be requested by your agency if you’re looking for additional reading or video content!
Books for Intended Parents
Successful Surrogacy by Susan MZ Fuller
Successful Surrogacy: An Intended Parents’ Guide to a Rewarding Relationship with Their Surrogate Mother is an excellent book written in 2015. Susan Fuller is a seven-time gestational surrogate mother who has delivered nine surrogate children over the course of twelve years. Her surrogacy experiences include two sets of twins, miscarriage, stillbirth, homebirth, waterbirth, and two cesarean sections. Her relationships with her intended parents have ranged from a distantly cool “business transaction” to intimately close and rewarding, and everything else in between. She is the homeschooling mother of three and writes about surrogacy and her experiences at surrogacybydesign.com. This is a great resources for intended parents looking for guidance on building a strong relationship with your surrogate and how to do so organically. It’s a great book to read prior to matching with your surrogate!
You can purchase Successful Surrogacy on Amazon for kindle or hard copy.
Surrogacy Was the Way by Zara Griswold
Surrogacy Was the Way: Twenty Intended Mothers Tell Their Stories is an excellent resource for intended mothers who are looking for different perspectives on surrogacy. All of the women who contribute to this book have different reasons for having children through surrogacy. Each of the journeys is also completely unique to the specific intended mother. All of the women who contribute to this book all end up having a child through surrogacy and share their experience. This is an excellent resource for those considering surrogacy to help grow their family. Please note that many of the laws and regulations quoted in this book may no longer be relevant or accurate. To find out more about the specific laws in your state, please contact us to speak with a lawyer about your specific case.
You can purchase Surrogacy Was the Way on Amazon in paperback.
Bringing in Finn by Sara Connell
Bringing in Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story is an amazing story about a unique surrogacy story. Author Sara Connell had her mother, Kristine Casey, act as her gestational carrier in order to have a child. Kristine Casey was 61 years old at the time of the birth, and became the oldest woman to ever give birth in Chicago when she delivered Finnean for Sara. This is an incredible story that sheds light on all of the different types of surrogacy and provides an element of hope for those looking to grow their family, but have faced many obstacles. This is an excellent read for women who have faced many years of hardship with infertility or have had to overcome many struggles on their journey to motherhood. This book is also great for any person trying to get a better grasp on the world of infertility, surrogacy, and the impact of love in growing a family. Please note that many of the laws and regulations quoted in this book may no longer be relevant or accurate. To find out more about the specific laws in your state, please contact us to speak with a lawyer about your specific case.
You can purchase Bringing in Finn on Amazon for Kindle or hard copy.
Our Journey: One Couple’s Guide to U.S. Surrogacy by Richard Westoby
Our Journey is a fascinating personal story that follows a U.K. based gay couple from the undertaking of IVF and surrogacy in the United States. This book is written about an international gay couple, so it has many resources that are specific to both of those criteria. Each chapter is a different step of that journey and it gives the reader an incredibly detailed insight into what to expect along the way. The chapters end with very practical questions and tips that the reader should be asking. Please note that many of the laws and regulations quoted in this book may no longer be relevant or accurate. To find out more about the specific laws in your state, please contact us to speak with a lawyer about your specific case.
You can purchase Our Journey: One Couple’s Guide to U.S. Surrogacy in paperback on Amazon.
Books for Surrogates
Experiencing Surrogacy by Emily Dubin Field
Experiencing Surrogacy: Perspective and Advice from Surrogate’s and Intended Parent’s Pregnancy Journey Together was published in November of 2019, so it is a very up to date look at the surrogacy landscape. This book is “is the true story of how a beautiful girl named Ava arrived in our world through a years-long collaboration of patience, determination, love, friendship, and professionalism between two couples, their families, and a host of professionals. The story is told, step by step, from the respective perspectives of the book’s authors: Melissa, the gestational surrogate who carried and gave birth to Ava, and Emily, Ava’s intended parent and mother. In telling the story, the authors provide the reader with a unique look into and candid advice about every step in the surrogacy process from the two most important sides of the surrogacy experience.” This is a great read for both intended surrogates and intended parents.
You can purchase Experiencing Surrogacy for Kindle or paperback on Amazon.
How to Become a Surrogate Mother by Greta Knowles
How to Become a Surrogate Mother: A Guide to Becoming a Surrogate and What You Should Know About Surrogate Motherhood is a good resource for women who are interested in becoming surrogate mothers, but don’t know where to start. How to Become a Surrogate Mother breaks down the process in a way that is not overwhelming or overly confusing. This guide provides an overview of the process, the procedures, the legal expectations, and more. If you’re interested in becoming a surrogate, this book is a great starting point.
You can purchase How to Become a Surrogate Mother on Amazon for kindle or hard copy.
Interested in another reading list? Check out our blog post on the Best Surrogacy Books for Kids and stock up on books to read to your kids about surrogacy!