By Kelly Wallace, CBS Sunday Morning News,
January 25, 2009
CBS Sunday Morning News Cover Story – January 25, 2009
Featuring Melissa Brisman and reporter Kelly Wallace
“Special delivery” is an old post office term that, you might say, has taken on new meaning in the world of medicine. And many a hopeful couple is taking full advantage.
It’s their big night. The race is on … Melissa and Michael Musman from Brooklyn, New York have rushed to OSF St. Francis Medical Center in Peoria, Ill., to have their first child.
They’ve barely made it … but Melissa’s not the one giving birth. Tracy – a surrogate mother – is.
New science and new laws are making for a new day for birth mothers like Tracy (she asked us not to use her last name) and parents like Melissa and Michael, whom we first met three weeks earlier.
“Just thinking about it now, I can get tears in my eyes,” Michael said. “It’s going to be a very emotional moment for me. Both of us.”
A month after their wedding in 2006, Melissa had non-cancerous tumors removed from her pelvis and abdomen. Radiation made her infertile.
“How difficult was it when you learned you wouldn’t be able to have a baby yourself?” Wallace asked.
“In the beginning, it was difficult, because every little girl dreams of getting married and having a baby,” Melissa said.
“Ah, it was tough,” Michale said. “You know, you get married, you want to have children. There were a lot of tears at nighttime, a lot of crying.”
But before the surgery, Melissa saved one of her eggs. So, with Michael’s sperm, the Musmans could create an embryo using in vitro fertilization (or IVF) … a test tube baby.
But they still needed a willing woman and her healthy womb to do the rest.
“We never had a carrier that we found and screened that actually wanted to keep the baby,” Brisman said.
Surrogates today are more like Gina Scanlon and Jennifer (again, first name only), both from the Pittsburgh area.
Scanlon, 42 years old, is a portrait painter and mother of three. She delivered twins as a surrogate two years ago. And now, in part because her husband Brian needs expensive surgery, Scanlon is pregnant again.
In contrast, this is Jennifer’s first try as a surrogate. She’s a 36-year-old stay-at-home mother of two.
“Being a mother, I can’t imagine life without my children,” she told Wallace, “and so you know, it really came to the fact that I would really like to help another couple have a child that they otherwise could not.”
“What do you think is inside of you that said, ‘I want to be a surrogate’?” asked Wallace.
“I love being pregnant,” Gina told her. “It’s a great experience. And having met friends and family who experienced infertility, their choices are limited. I felt that I wanted to do this for someone else. My family was complete.”
“Did you ever worry, first time, that you would not want to give up those babies?”
“It was never something that entered my mind,” Gina said.
“Never at all?”
“No. You go into it with the thought that this is for someone else. It is not your baby to give up. It’s their baby from the start. And the end is the reward: The end is being able to deliver this baby and turn it over to the parents. And see, they’ve been waiting for years for this to happen. And it finally happens when they’re holding their own child. And it’s so worth it.”
Gina delivered twins for their parents – Tom Pistula and Jeffrey Lui. Tom is a college professor; Jeffrey an accountant. Iris and Ivory were conceived with an egg provided by an egg bank and sperm supplied by Jeffrey.
What were they looking for in a surrogate?
“A woman who I thought was emotionally secure enough to give up the children and … to be able to handle that process,” Tom said.
They say they want the twins to call Gina “Auntie.”
“What do you they mean to you, Iris and Ivory?” Wallace asked Jeffrey.
“They are my world,” he said. “I just can’t imagine without them how life would be.”
Paying a surrogate remains illegal in several parts in the United States.
It’s also against the law in most of Europe, which is why Sylvia and Michaela came all the way from Italy to the La Jolla IVF Clinic in California.
Sylvia lost her uterus – and almost her life – after a miscarriage. The couple watched as embryos created through his sperm and her eggs were placed inside the body of a 30-year-old surrogate – a woman they’d earlier communicated with from afar but never before met.
The process took just minutes.
“It is inconceivable to have done this 30 years ago,” Michaela said.
A few weeks later, they will learn the procedure was a success – and it’s twins
“A miracle!” Sylvia said.
The miracle has a high price. The fee for the entire surrogacy process ranges from $80,000 to well over $100,000.
Of that, doctors get $9,000 to $15,000; agencies, $15,000 to $20,000; and the surrogates? First-timers get $18,000 to $25,000; experienced surrogates, up to $40,000.
“The definition of motherhood is changing over time,” Brisman said. “Like, it’s not necessarily the woman who gives birth is the mother. It’s very hard for people to accept. I think in a few years or, you know, maybe ten years, this is just going to be old news.”
Back in Peoria, Melissa and Michael Musman’s world is about to change forever.
“I see it, oh my God, oh my God, it’s a little boy!” she said.
Michael can’t hide his delight; Melissa can’t keep off the phone …
“I am overwhelmed with joy,” Michael said. “I want to thank Tracy for everything she did for us.”
And Tracy – who’s now very much in the background – just doesn’t want to cry.
“I’m ecstatic for them,” she said. “This is a great gift. I got to be part of that, making me really happy and joyful to know I could make someone else’s life so happy.”
The happiest gift of all – the gift life, or as Melissa describes him, “our miracle child.”